Dating a girl with anorexia

13 Feb

Thus, we hesitated before sharing Tuthmosis' post here.Last week, a blog called Return of Kings ran an article titled "5 Reasons To Date A Girl With An Eating Disorder," which went massively viral on Facebook.'In other words, the presence of one of the classic eating disorders is a reliable predictor of various socio-economic, cultural, and personality traits in a young woman -- features that, in the end, are desirable to today’s American man,' the writer, who says he has dated 'several' girls with an eating disorder, explains in his post. 'A girl who spends inordinate mental and physical energy on her looks is rarely fat,' and: 'While they may have a "distorted body image" on the inside, that usually means staying trim and fit on the outside'.'You’ll be dealing with a tastefully insecure girl, who’s eager to please, and wants nothing more than your approval. Could I really be honest about what it’s like to date a woman with a binge eating disorder and would she still love me afterwards? Another reason I was hesitant was because she wanted me to respond to an article entitled written by an anonymous guy on the misogynistic website “Return of Kings”.Dear Tuthmosis, Thanks for your considerate and eloquent article on “5 reasons to date a girl with an eating disorder”. In a great book by Janet Treasure aimed at helping families and sufferers survive eating disorders, I remember reading that they are not purely a white western modern phenomenon; there are instances of eating disorders in times and places where the prevailing idea of what’s beautiful is not the androgynous supermodel of today’s Western elite.It made me hark back to the golden years between 15 and 17 when I was anorexic. Don’t be silly – I didn’t do either of these things for the best part of 5 years. Although frequency does differ between countries, cultures and socio-economic groups, ultimately, they pop up everywhere.As for being “deft at properly dressing [my] body type”, sadly I spent the majority of these years in an oversized pair of jeans and the biggest, baggiest jumper that I could find. It also takes a huge amount of willpower to watch your parents break down in tears in front of you and go on starving yourself anyway. Not having periods for three and a half years really screws up your reproductive system.On a related note – I hear that men sometimes like women who have breasts? They are usually the first thing you lose when you lose weight. You say you’ve dated girls with eating disorders before and yet there’s something fundamental that you’re not getting: it’s not about being thin, it’s about being sick.

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Indeed, the International Business Times points out that the post seems to have generated so much traffic that the Return of Kings site was knocked out for at least an hour Monday.If you have an eating disorder you have a mental illness.What you seem to be saying is that you like dating women who are ill, not well.Kelsey and I had a beautiful relationship and had talked about marriage before her doctor diagnosed her with anorexia nervosa, or AN, a couple years after we began dating.I loved her, and I was determined to see her through it.