Dating someone who is quitting smoking

22 Mar

Listen, I’m not a doctor, I’m just someone who has dated a smoker in the past and my answer speaks to my experience.

I don’t purport to know what’s best to treat smoking, but I do empathize with the frustration you feel.

After several failed relationships, I finally found someone who is all the things you say that a real man should be. I am a non-smoker and have never dated a smoker in the past, but I am in my mid 30’s and ready for marriage.

He is too, but his smoking is the only issue we keep arguing about.

I have a lot of close friends who smoke and it drives me crazy, it’s such a deal breaker for me... I mentioned meeting James in a recent blog, and that he breaks a deal breaker. He’s quitting, but with how hard it is I still label him as a smoker. Don’t expect them to quit for you, or ask them to quit for you.

Now I believe he’s trying to quit, but I don’t know how successful he’ll be and I’m not sure how to handle it. Since he started quitting before he met me, I know he’s doing it for him which is great. i want to support him, but not hound him about it either. If they pull out a cigarette and you can’t/don’t want to be around it, leave. You can ask them if they want to quit, or have thought about it, and try to be supportive, but don’t make them do something they don’t want to do. Understand that this is a difficult dating situation, on both parties.

If you rule out people who don’t smoke, the reality is that you are ruling out thousands – no, millions – of people!

Yet the question about whether you should date a smoker is valid.

Note that some men and women have a strong physical reaction to the smell of smoke, causing near-gagging or stomach-turning.

Because in real life, smoking is not sexy – even if the Marlboro Man makes it look hot.

She wrote, “My boyfriend and I have been together almost 4 years.

I obviously don’t want him to quit for me, because then if we fight or break up he’d most likely jump back into it. He knows I’m all for him quitting, but when he mentions wanting to smoke, should I ask him not to? It’s not okay for you to get angry or annoyed at them when they do.

But here are some hints if you’re dating someone who smokes and you don’t, and then if you’re a smoker dating a non smoker. You knew this going into the relationship and it’s not fair to hold it against them.